Going through a break-up is hard. In fact, some people might argue it’s right up there with the death of a pet or a loved one. In many ways, a breakup is a death – the death of your relationship, and of the person you were when you were with them.
But while that idea might sound frightening at first, it can actually provide you with the perspective necessary for moving forward, stronger and more yourself than ever before. Read through these five key tips for managing a difficult breakup and embracing your new life as an almighty individual.
Be Unapologetic in your Personal Freedom
Whether you were able to exercise healthy personal freedom in your past relationship or not, now is the time to lean into that aspect of your life.
When you’re in a committed relationship, the potential for personal freedom is limited. You have to consider their wants and needs, which can sometimes mean sacrificing things that are important to you. Now that you’re single, you can truly do whatever you want – no strings attached.
Don’t take it as a sign to be reckless with yourself, but rather to explore both yourself and the world in ways you weren’t able to before. It can help you to find meaning and happiness in your current state.
Spend Lots of Time with Friends and Family
Even though you might feel like you want to crawl into a hole and never come out, encouraging yourself to get out the house and visit loved ones can be extremely emotionally beneficial. Your friends and family love you and want to support you, so don’t be afraid to let them do that.
Sometimes, the moments where you most want to be alone are the moments you most need external support. Without rushing or pressuring yourself, try to organize time spent with people who love you and want to see you thrive. Even if you just go for a walk together or play POLi pokies online, being around those who care is food for the soul.
Express Yourself
Feelings are there to be expressed. Chances are, you’re experiencing some major emotional shifts right now, shifts which will be processed more effectively with some coaxing out into the open.
Use this time to tap into whatever you are feeling and express it in some creative way, whether that’s a giant splatter painting or interpretive forest dance. The options are endless!
Growth over Goals
Now, this is not to say that goals are not valuable and important. But right now, it might be more useful to you to prioritize natural growth over achieving specific objectives.
For example, you might say to yourself, “I’m struggling to feel okay right now. But instead of fixating on the future, what can I do right now to feel better?”
Notice the difference. Focusing on long-term goals is great for when you have the energy to achieve them, but at the moment you may be in deeper need of present love and attention. Do things that actively nourish your body, mind, and heart today, and let tomorrow take its course when it happens. You’re going to be okay!
